Having a toddler can be a lot of fun…until it’s not. Tantrums can be a parent’s worst nightmare, but with a few tools in your belt, you may be able to steer your preschooler away from them a little better.
Why do toddlers have tantrums?
At times, tantrums are a result of a little person with big feelings who does not know how to manage those feelings yet. Your toddler does not have good coping skills yet, but hopefully you do. Maybe she is trying to exert her independence but is having a tough time completing a task. She needs your help but does not want it. Enter the tantrum. Remember that struggling and failing are good for your child. Without struggle there is no real growth or progress.
How can parents manage tantrums?
What do you do? Stay calm, collected, and consistent. Ignore her if nobody is being hurt. Send or take her somewhere safe where she can have her tantrum alone (such as on her bed) and close the door and leave. Let her know she can come back out when she is done and has calmed down. Tantrums are not as fun without an audience, so it should get old quickly.
Other times your preschooler may just need a change of scenery or a new activity to distract them from the cause of the tantrum. Try to use simple but direct instructions when dealing with them. “Let’s go outside,” Or “Let’s color,” are some examples.
What should parents avoid?
Whatever approach you choose, do not bribe or promise some type of reward for them to stop acting out. This only encourages them to act out again in the future. If you are calm and consistent, your preschooler will learn not to test the boundaries and both of you will be much happier. Remember, tantrums are developmentally appropriate at this stage, and with proper guidance, your toddler will gain social skills to advance past this stage sooner rather than later.
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