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Many parents believe that setting limits for a preschooler<\/a> is all about keeping them safe. While limits can be used to prevent dangerous situations (crossing the street without a parent, asking before eating something unknown, etc.) it is also a form of discipline that when enforced regularly, can lead to good judgement and an ability to think for themselves as they grow up.<\/p>\n

Setting limits goes beyond just saying \u201cno\u201d and enforcing it. There needs to be a middle ground between letting your child do what they want, when they want, and being so authoritarian that children can\u2019t think for themselves or manage their anger properly. This middle ground should be thought of as limits with empathy. Showing empathy to your child\u2019s situation makes your limits more palatable so there is less resistance from your preschooler.<\/p>\n

According to Dr. Laura on the website Aha! Parenting, setting limits with empathy means:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Start with a strong, supportive connection with your child so he knows you’re on his side.
\n\u2022 See it from his point of view and offer genuine empathy that he can feel, while setting the limit.
\n\u2022 Resist the temptation to be punitive in any way. Setting the limit teaches the lesson. Anything more backfires.
\n\u2022 See his life from his point of view and only set the limits you really need to set, so that his life is more about connection and discovery than about limits and frustration. Saying No too often undermines your relationship.<\/p>\n

When preschoolers realize that they are loved and valued by their parents, they will be more willing to accept correction and limits. It\u2019s also important to remember that you don\u2019t want the limits you set to be unnecessary or not age-appropriate. Understanding what your child is capable of<\/a> is a major step in knowing which limits are appropriate for your child and which are asking too much of your preschooler. For instance, asking your child to remain quiet for the entire car trip across the state with no food, bathroom, or stretching breaks is more than a 4 year old can handle. Setting appropriate limits means more success for everyone in the process.<\/p>\n

Another tip for setting effective limits is to understand that you are doing yourself and your child a disservice if you try to control your children punitively if they do not follow the rules you\u2019ve set. All humans will react with anger and resistance when they feel controlled and limits that are perceived as punitive are not effective and may instead lead to resentment. Setting limits is not the same as punishment. The goal is to limit or eliminate behavior while still allowing feelings. Show your preschooler that you understand what they want and why they want it, even if you don\u2019t let them have it. Showing them that you are on their side but explaining why you have set your limit can go a long way in creating self-disciplining children.<\/p>\n

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Here at Kids \u2018R\u2019 Kids Avalon Park, we focus on providing a safe and educational environment for our preschoolers to learn, develop, and grow. We strive to set helpful limits that encourage critical thinking and socialization skills. If you\u2019d like to learn more about our award winning programs or expert staff, contact us today!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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